Some Experiencers (ET abductees, contactees) have conscious recall of their ET experiences, some have partial conscious recall and many have no conscious recall at all. Conscious recall of an ET event doesn't affect the credence or validity of the event. In other words, just because an individual consciously remembers their ET interactions, that doesn't mean the experiences are more real or more valid than someone who doesn't. Nor does it make it any easier to live with. On the face of it, it might seem advantageous to have conscious recall of your ET visits, but some Experiencers would give anything not to remember. In the case of traumatic experiences, it's often a blessing. Some Experiencers want to remember, others want to forget. There's no right or wrong.

But back to why you don't remember. Psychologists spend an inordinate amount of time and energy arguing among themselves about why humans remember and why they don't, but probably most would agree that there are some basic reasons why you may not remember your late night ET rendezvous.

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Repressed memory?

Repressed memory is a concept used to describe a significant memory, usually traumatic, that you can't recall. It's there; you just can't remember it. This is also known as motivated forgetting - you purposefully don't remember something because it's too painful to deal with consciously. The protective powers of the human mind are amazing. Basically, you can forget anything that you don't want to deal with. Repressed memories may be recoverable, if you want to recover them, but it's a good idea to trust your mind and not go digging around for repressed information unless you really need to for your health and sanity. Just be aware that's one can of worms that may be better left unopened.

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Memory block?

While a repressed memory is a function of your own protective mind, a memory block or mental block may be placed there by or under the influence of someone or something else. Again, the memory may still be in your subconscious, but you can't recall it because you aren't meant to. We know that ETs possess technology far in advance of our own, and apparently are able to manipulate us mentally. Many Experiencers comment that during the event a machine was placed on their head or some type of tool was touched to their heads, causing them to forget. Did they really forget? Or was the memory merely blocked? If it was blocked, you may be able to remove the block and retrieve the memory. If you forgot, then the memory is gone and unrecoverable.

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Did you make an agreement?

Take a deep breath and let it out slowly. That's right. This may be really hard for you to accept, but many Experiencers believe that at some point in time - either before or during this life - they made an agreement or contract with certain ETs to participate in their experiments, studies and activities. And knowing that some of those might be unpleasant, they agreed to have their memories repressed or erased. I call this "The Ignorance Is Bliss Contract." You may be in on the same type of deal. It might be difficult to accept, but it's a lot more empowering than thinking you're a helpless victim.



Despite all the dramatic movies and stories about it, amnesia is really just a natural function of the human mind that we all experience every day. It can also be caused by trauma. Basically, amnesia is when memories are either not stored in the first place, when short term memory is not moved into long term storage or when an event is immediately forgotten because it's not important enough to remember or our minds can't relate to it - what psychologists call dissociation. Every day our minds are flooded with sensory input from the environment - most of which isn't necessary to remember. Believe it nor not, your mind may have determined that your ET experience wasn't something you would need or want to recall later, so a memory simply wasn't made. And, obviously, if it's not there, you won't be able to retrieve it.

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The mind flush?

Not everyone agrees about the purpose of dreaming, but one explanation is that dreaming is our mind's natural way of flushing out unneeded information from our subconscious mind. Because dreams happen when we are unconscious (asleep), we can feel all the emotions and activity of the real experience while we are at rest. We can feel the exhilaration of flying without actually jumping off the roof, fight off vampires with a Twizzler or have a variety of sexual escapades with people we'd never even speak to in real life. Dreaming is a lot safer than actually doing - and much less embarrassing. The human subconscious mind is a huge storehouse of information, but it doesn't have room for every single sensory input it has received since you were conceived. That's a lot of stuff - most of it worthless. So dreaming gets rid of it for us. If a memory was flushed out in a dream, it's gone and unrecoverable.



At this point, I would be remiss if I didn't say something about the reliability of human memory. Human memories are notoriously unreliable. They are very easily influenced by whatever we have taken into our mind since the event and whatever happens to be on our mind at the time we are trying to remember. That's one reason it's a good idea to elicit the help of a counselor or therapist trained in the function of the human mind and the nuts and bolts of the UFO/ET abduction phenomenon to accompany you on your journey.

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So what should I do?

Experiencer Therapy is much more than simply the recovery of memories. That's just the beginning. The hard work comes in successfully integrating the experience into your daily life. Whether you like it or not, if you've been taken, abducted or visited by ETs, it is a fact of your life. The traces (memories) of the event may have been stored in your subconscious mind, and if they are causing problems, you need to find some way to get past the trauma, fear, confusion, etc. So whether you have full recall of the experience or not, if it's problematic, looking into it would prove helpful. There are a lot of options for trying to deal with your experiences, some healthier than others and it is true that sometimes memories come back on their own over time, and if they do, you may be just fine. But if you need help, get some. And know that all your fellow Experiencers wish you well!

Gwen Farrell, CHt, RT